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When I moved to Colombia, South America to begin a life with a man I’d been dating for several years, I had high hopes for a beautiful future. Less than a year later, when his best friend answered his phone, drunk and ranting about the fact that my boyfriend had been sleeping with his daughter, my hopes shattered like a delicate glass vase flung from an 8th floor balcony.
What followed wasn’t grace.
It wasn’t healing.
It was a full-bodied, cellular “fuhk this.”
And that—finally—was honest. The experience made space for me to tell the whole damn world to fuhk off. And that changed everything.
Part memoir, part social commentary, this irreverent and comedic narrative tells the brutally hilarious tales of all my failed relationships and highlights the many ways that women are taught to give up their power. You’ll hear about the time a man I was dating asked if he could donate his skin to me (to re-cover my long-healed scars, I guess?), the time I was accosted by a handicapped elderly gent from the driver’s seat of his modified van, and the time the guy I was dating and I got pulled over before he’d had a chance to pull his pants back up - among many other ridiculous and positively humiliating stories.
But I’m not sharing these stories just to make you laugh - although I genuinely hope you do. I share them because I want us all to have the kind of liberation that comes with having your ego entirely stripped away so you can be seen (and loved) for who you really are. I’m sharing them because there is a particular kind of freedom that comes when the performance collapses, when the ego burns, and when you stop bargaining with systems that profit from your compliance. I share them because I want us all to be able to throw up our middle fingers to the systems of dominance and oppression inflicted on us by arbitrary societal rules - and live utterly joyful and liberated lives. With men, if we want to.
Fuhk Your Way is a feral, irreverent blend of memoir and social commentary, built from stories of self-abandonment and the unhinged systems that taught women to mistake disappearance for love. Each chapter pairs lived experience with unapologetic rants that tear into patriarchy, romantic mythology, spiritual gaslighting, and the quiet agreements and abandonments we’re expected to make in order to be chosen.
These stories aren’t confessions.
They’re evidence.
This book calls bullshit on the rules.
On the frameworks.
On the belief that love requires self-erasure.
Fuhk Your Way is an invitation to opt out—to stop asking for permission, to stop softening your edges, and to build a life, identity, and relationship on your own terms.
When I moved to Colombia, South America to begin a life with a man I’d been dating for several years, I had high hopes for a beautiful future. Less than a year later, when his best friend answered his phone, drunk and ranting about the fact that my boyfriend had been sleeping with his daughter, my hopes shattered like a delicate glass vase flung from an 8th floor balcony.
What followed wasn’t grace.
It wasn’t healing.
It was a full-bodied, cellular “fuhk this.”
And that—finally—was honest. The experience made space for me to tell the whole damn world to fuhk off. And that changed everything.
Part memoir, part social commentary, this irreverent and comedic narrative tells the brutally hilarious tales of all my failed relationships and highlights the many ways that women are taught to give up their power. You’ll hear about the time a man I was dating asked if he could donate his skin to me (to re-cover my long-healed scars, I guess?), the time I was accosted by a handicapped elderly gent from the driver’s seat of his modified van, and the time the guy I was dating and I got pulled over before he’d had a chance to pull his pants back up - among many other ridiculous and positively humiliating stories.
But I’m not sharing these stories just to make you laugh - although I genuinely hope you do. I share them because I want us all to have the kind of liberation that comes with having your ego entirely stripped away so you can be seen (and loved) for who you really are. I’m sharing them because there is a particular kind of freedom that comes when the performance collapses, when the ego burns, and when you stop bargaining with systems that profit from your compliance. I share them because I want us all to be able to throw up our middle fingers to the systems of dominance and oppression inflicted on us by arbitrary societal rules - and live utterly joyful and liberated lives. With men, if we want to.
Fuhk Your Way is a feral, irreverent blend of memoir and social commentary, built from stories of self-abandonment and the unhinged systems that taught women to mistake disappearance for love. Each chapter pairs lived experience with unapologetic rants that tear into patriarchy, romantic mythology, spiritual gaslighting, and the quiet agreements and abandonments we’re expected to make in order to be chosen.
These stories aren’t confessions.
They’re evidence.
This book calls bullshit on the rules.
On the frameworks.
On the belief that love requires self-erasure.
Fuhk Your Way is an invitation to opt out—to stop asking for permission, to stop softening your edges, and to build a life, identity, and relationship on your own terms.