Come back to yourself… and start loving your life.
Most people don’t come to coaching because something is slightly off.
They come because they’re standing at a crossroads—confused, exhausted, and afraid of making the wrong choice.
I help women reclaim their authority, trust their instincts, and build lives centered on their own values, desires, and direction.
Personal Empowerment * Self Discovery * Energy alignment 1 : 1 coaching
Self-growth and spiritual work is... well, work. We have to keep at it, and doing so with some support is SO much easier (and more fun). These private coaching sessions will give you the one on one tailored support to guide you through designing your life in alignment with your soul self. We will employ as many tools as you are comfortable with to understand your deepest desires, the path your heart wants to take, and your soul purpose in your life. I’ll provide you with many of the tools and even create custom meditations for you to use whenever you want if you feel it would serve you. My intention is to help you understand how you can heal and help yourself.
“there’s a difference between an emotional artifact and baggage.
One allows the experiences of your life to change you emotionally, energetically; it allows the lessons in those experiences to be imprinted on your soul.
the rest is just extra weight you carry around.”
~Jaclyn Lanae
sex, love, and the self podcast
My guests and I are all about empowering ourselves to love our lives - MORE. If all of life and the associated experiences are a classroom, relationships are our tutors. Exploring relationships; what they look like, how they work, how we work in them, who we ARE in them... is a fascinating and often comical way to explore ourselves and our collective society. And subsequently make adjustments to better ourselves, our communities, and - of course - our relationships.
go deeper with substack and the unruly women’s circle
Sex, Love, and the Self on Substack delivers insight to your inbox. Weekly, deep-dive explorations on the ways we can embody our divine, authentic energy; empower ourselves in our relationships, and change our perspectives to transform our lives into experiences we LOVE living. The weekly newsletters are free. And, if you subscribe you’ll get access to the Unruly Women’s Circle - the bad influence you’ve been looking for. A private space for women who are done shrinking.
Inside the circle, we explore:
The spirituality of feminine power
Autonomy in love and identity
The conditioning we’re still untangling
How to move from “Why does this hurt?” to “How do I reclaim myself?”
Self-guided Workshops
These workshops are designed to guide you through a process of deep introspection, supporting you in connecting with your true self, discovering your personal path, and pursuing it.
Each four-lesson workshop series will guide you through making changes in your mind, in your perspective - in order to change your life and live with JOY. Each session will teach you a new way to re-program your brain and give you a practical tool to help make those changes permanent. You'll also enjoy a short meditation at the end of each session to give you a jump start on that particular part of your journey.
Each Self Love Workshop comes with a digital workbook to help guide you through the lessons, as well as journal prompts to process and integrate the changes you are making in yourself and your life.
Spiritual healing tools
Tarot Readings
I spent a year studying the Tarot with a true master of the craft, in the mountains of the Andes. It is now one of my favorite tools to support the path of others.
self-love guidebook
Healing ourselves, fundamentally, begins with loving ourselves. A truth that begins with asking the right questions. In these pages you'll find a variety of journal prompts and exercises to help you navigate the process and create real change.
meditations
Meditation is a proven method for connecting with ourselves. These meditations are designed to address specific traumas that may be unconsciously holding you back from creating the self and life you want.
MEET YOUR coach
Jaclyn Lanae
Experientally-trained Self-Love and Personal Discovery Coach Author Podcaster
When I first began my career as a writer
I dreamed of authoring books. And I did. And I loved every aspect of it. However, as my life evolved alongside my writing I was gifted several particularly poignant experiences (destroying my body and briefly losing my life) which pushed me into the realm of spirituality.
I poured myself into the study of various spiritual practices in an effort to heal myself; to heal my trauma and my mind that so often betrayed me, stealing the joy from my life. To my delight, I discovered that I was, in fact, healing. I responded to conflict differently, I made decisions with more passion and clarity, and most of all, I lived with more JOY.
When friends and acquaintances began to come to me in their moments of confusion or fear, searching for a way out of the darkness, I discovered that all I had learned could help others.
I’m now a relationship coach, author, and writer who works with people in relational crisis—moments when staying, leaving, or radically changing how you relate feels unavoidable.
My approach is grounded in self-love and self-trust, with a spiritual orientation that stays practical and embodied. I don’t tell clients what to do. I help them hear themselves more clearly, understand their patterns, and make choices they can stand behind.
People often come to me after years of trying to “figure it out” alone. What we do together is quieter, deeper work—learning how to stay connected to yourself while being in relationship with others.